This article is proposed to involve truly happiness. It is abstract word that we may not trade among all of us and/or exchange between one and another. All of people always make pursuit of happiness and what is happiness for human beings. However, not all of us may meet happiness as equal as and/or the same one. In psychology, happiness is a mental or emotional state of well-being which can be defined by, among others, and positive or pleasant emotions. This is truly a basis of happiness definition. In fact, many people seem to try to seek for happiness and sometimes they create happy days of various places (i.e. tourist, entertainment site etc.) including art of happiness in order to deal with real happiness in life and living. Moreover, sometimes they try to create happy song so that they may look further any value of happiness indeed. Yet, the happiness is still a little bit complex between all people, for example, rich and poor. The rich always finds the happiness via wealth support, but the poor finds the happiness via labor for survival. Accordingly, it raises a question for how to find happiness and how to be happy and with whom or with what we get really happiness indeed. So, please let see some happy quotes extracted from many famous people so that we may understand what truly happiness and how we maintain it if not forever at least most part of entire life.
Happiness, the one commodity, we all wants, but happiness is abstract, subjective, and presumptuous. It’s the one commodity we cannot trade or grant each other. It’s not one click away, and apparently one can’t just order some from Amazon Prime. Happiness has no corporeal form, no shape, no tactile sensory. It exists in nothing and everything. Without it though, life becomes an empty soundtrack-nothing but static hum. Happiness permeates within us a sense of purpose and adrenaline and joy to cope with all that are happening around us. It’s our coping mechanism, our relieve vault.
If life really is a rollercoaster with all its ups and downs, then it must be going in reverse, because you can’t really know where you’re going. One can only guess, and in this uncertainty, we buckle to the immense pressure sets upon us demanding us to comply as if every path had already been paved and we’re only have to walk, but it is less straight forward than that. And now as you sit on one of the coasters, you can only scream as everything zooms out of your sight in the other direction. You can only anticipate that next fall or that next rise, and the funny part is we’re supposed to draw happiness from all of this, but if Dalai Lama can do it in his long scarlet and golden robe, so can everybody else.
Before jumping any further, something needs to be established beforehand. Happiness manifests in two forms, short-term happiness and long-term happiness which is considerably close to what we identified as ‘contentment’. With that in mind, happiness can either be substituted with simple entertainments to fabricate a jolt of happiness-but at time contribute so little to the overall arch of our emotional well-being-or by working for the long-term goals to satisfy our contentment.
“We forge the chains we wear in life.” Charles Dickens, British author.
We remember as a child wanting to be set free, to be released into the sea, to experience the liberty of the real world, wanting to gain the freedom of adolescence and to finally do whatever our heart intends. Drive, vote, drink, or staying our late, these are just the tip of the iceberg. But once we are older, smarter, and more mature, we are able to discern they weren’t what we dreamt they be. Driving is just pressing your foot lightly on the gas pedal before doing just the same thing once you at a stoplight-nothing but rules and signals. Voting is discerning the whats and whys of good and bad politicians who are just about the same. Drinking is nothing but jumping-start your brain cells for an eventual hangover. And staying out late isn’t so much fun anymore when you have work the next morning. So, in a way, we forge our own chains that entrap us. It’s good to realize we are the reason for our own bit of happiness and that such chains exist. We cannot snap our fingers and change everything to how we see fit, but that’s because:
“The talent of being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don’t have.” Woody Allen, American director.
It’s not a strange phenomenon that we spend our daylight dreaming of what we could or would be, after all, isn’t it good to dream? To be optimistic about some goals or what we will one day become? A secret billionaire perhaps? In these dreams, however, we can lose ourselves and forget reality, and we sometimes would rather sit still wandering in our own imagination that we neglect the tasks at hand because it’s too good to be true, and we are scared to start, since in a weird way, we know that if we start at the wrong point, we would fail, so we would instead not start it at all. That way we are safe. And this is true to any venture in life, whether it’s a creative endeavor or of an entrepreneurial one. So, love what you have, your skills, your knowledge, your possessions, your belongings, or your loved ones. Make use of them, don’t wait, because:
“Happiness is not something readymade. It comes from your own actions.” Dalai Lama
Whether you want to satisfy your long-term contentment, or quench your dread or sorrow with immediate artificial entertainments, it is all taken place with your action. What you are going to do? Your course of actions will determine what outcome you’re going to receive for that matter. How you approach a problem? With anger or with composure? How you solve the reality puzzles? How you ease the tension that is intensifying in your chest? There are millions of possibilities of which we can utilize. We only have to choose. That’s another uncertainty, isn’t it? Another burden? How do you know which one to select from? How do you know if it’s going to make you happy?
“The mystery of life isn’t a problem to solve but a reality to experience.” Frank Herbert, Dune
Uncertainty is the mystery of life. At each and every tick of the mechanical hand of the clock, each one of us is facing unlimited uncertainty. Nothing is sure until it has happened. So, when it comes to that we cannot just pull into our bag, fish out a calculator, and begin factoring, adding, multiplying, and dividing uncertainty until only one option is left. It’s not a solving for ‘x’ equation. In the face of that great mystery, we can only act on what we presume is right which can be hard under some circumstances. Right does not always mean comfortable or convenient. We have to sip in these experience we face, cram them into our system as much as we can, and hope that on the next encounter we have conditioned ourselves to better deal with that problem. But why do we still feel the pressure in taking that step to our happiness? Is it that our thoughts are incoherent to our believes? Or do we need to experience and adapt to more uncertainty?
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” Mahatma Gandhi.
Walk your talk that’s the mantra. We are facing problems that seem to emerge out of nowhere. Poof! It’s here. And sometimes it’s not that we lack the imaginative power to resolve them, but rather the intimidation of actually doing it. So, summon your courage and follow through. Think what you believe, believe what you say, say what you’d do, and do it anyway follow through. Stand up to your problems, even when it’s not in your control, chest’s high up, own up to it, and accept them as a part of the dance. Music’s starting. Get ready. One, Two, Three, ready?
“We all get report cards in many different ways, but the real excitement of what you’re doing is in the doing of it. It’s not what you’re gonna get in the end – it’s not the final curtain – it’s really in the doing of it, and loving what you’re doing.” Ralph Lauren.
We set goals for ourselves. We dangle the prize in front of us like a carrot dangles in front of a mule. We flock to these self-imposed prizes as a promise of a better, much happier life. However, the prize is not really the end goal. We know we set them there, but they are only there to serve the actually-doing-it part. If you want to be a great musician, you would’ve to know that failing and writing crappy songs is a part of the crooked path that is your journey, but in these treks up to the top of the mountain, one must enjoy the view along the way however little. The payoff is only as meaningful or fruitful as your journey to the top. You’re on the dance floor now, so enjoy the dance, the sweat perspiring on your forehead and back, the bouncing of your feet against the dance floor’s tiles, the flailing of your arms by your side, the bobbing of your head surrendering to the rhythms.
“I know not all that may be coming, but be it what it will, I’ll go to it laughing.” Herman Melville, Moby Dick.
You can never predict when that next fall is going to appear. You have no idea, no fortune-telling ability to claim one way or the other. It’s not in your control. It’s idiotic to think that we can control every aspect of our life, every bit, every fragment, every minute, and every second. You’re on one of the coaster going in reverse. Strap yourself in. It’s going to get rough, but you can learn to love and appreciate it – going at it with that big smile of yours – because how you perceive it and everything is right within your grasp. There’s no avoiding reality, and no point of doing so, so when it’s finally arrived, how are you going to react to it? Whatever it is, it’s your choice – be it screaming, laughing, singing, or remaining numb to your seat. That’s you or a reflection of you in the face of tragedy. And to broader understand this:
“Expecting life to treat you well because you are a good person is like expecting an angry bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian.” Shari R. Barr, author
You can approach things with less intensity and stress if you choose to view it’s as normal events unfolding. When you don’t expect much from life and pool all your effort into making or doing your works, life will be less disappointing. Whenever the bar of expectation is raised, so is our emotional stake. The higher it goes, the further the drop. It’s not that expectation is unnecessarily sinister or evil. It comes with its own righteous benefits, but to be asking for the wrong things or too much from anything or anyone is an expedition through letdown-Ville and pain-town. With that in mind, it’s not that you shouldn’t do good because life does not acknowledge your actions, but rather the opposite. Do good and choose what is right, do what you want and love, not because of some expectation of a life as a millionaire mogul, but rather because you expect nothing.
“The best way to cheer yourself is to try to cheer someone else up.” Mark Twain, author.
Happiness doesn’t dissipate when share, if anything, it amplifies. Friendship, relationship, and bond between people is one of the creators of happiness – a happiness mill if you will. In goes the grain of friendship and human connection, out comes the happiness dust, ready to be sprinkled on those are in its parameter. Those who were born out of the periphery of the technological age can tell you how happy their childhood once was. I do agree that the internet has its own fair share of fun, but it’s never meant to be a replacement. You still need interaction, even if it’s through texting – better through face-to-face interaction though. We enjoy People Company. Laugh with them, not at them, and in those times, the whole universe lights up and the dreadful shadow drifts away. We love and are loved.
“You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness.” Jonathan Safran Foer, author.
In ‘Let Her Go’, a song by Passengers, the lyrics go a little bit like this: ‘you only need the light when it’s burning low, only need the sun when it starts to snow’. What I’m trying to make here is that we need them both. Being unhappy is just as much happiness as being happy. It’s integral to one another – they complete one another, two sides of the same coin. We enjoy the foods more when we are starving. We appreciate happiness better when we are sad. They are two side of the spectrum which we can’t just abandon any side, or we would be left, unbalanced. So, open yourself up, let people in, and have them be a part of your life. Fortifying yourself against your enemies is doing the same to your allies. Walls and barriers have no conscience. All it does is separating you and those you love. Emotional moat is not an easy cross. Let us in.
Happiness might be abstract, subjective, and presumptuous, but it doesn’t in any way shy away its impact on all of us. However you draw your happiness – either a burst of pleasure or an everlasting one – it should not overshadow the fact that they are still happiness, the kind that can be spread, let multiply like a warm platonic wildfire. It’s in how you see and approach things. Any evil becomes good if you look at it hard enough.
So, now, you’re on one of the coaster traveling in reverse. You’re never sure when the next strike is – the next fall or the next climb – but you know for one thing and that for whatever it is you will still be intact in your seat facing the other way. You watch as everything zoom out admiring them while they last. You cannot control them. You can scream or laugh or sing or cry or stay numb to your seat, but whatever it is – you must realize you’re a part of the ride. Enjoy them. Indeed, happiness is truly complex of the life and live not only poor people, but also wealthy people and all of people may have both happiness and sadness together from starting life to ending.