Scenery Images Of Quitting Multi-Habits And Financial Habit

This is last article that may be looked to achieve solution and to eradicate all habits in place. That is, a lot of people want to lose weight, but they focus on trying out different diets or trying to do crazy amounts of exercise. We find that changing your eating habits is the best route to getting to a healthy weight. It takes awhile to lose weight using this method because habit change is best when gradual, but we have found that it is the best way to achieve lasting health and weight change. Unfortunately, eating habits can be very tough to change because of a couple of reasons:

First, Eating is tied to emotional habits. Many of us turn to comfort food when we feel lonely or sad. We use food for relief when we’re tired or stressed. We turn to food when we need love or reward. It can be difficult to change eating habits when food is so tied up in emotional habits.

Second, Food environments are incredibly important and can be difficult to change. It’s hard to resist overeating if we are surrounded by tempting junk food or tempting restaurant food. We are biologically wired to want this food and our unconscious brains will override our best wishes to eat less or make healthier choices.

Third, Certain foods are fairly addictive. Sugar, fried foods, pastries or bread, fatty foods, salty snacks, chocolate, and caffeine can all be fairly addictive. Breaking addictions is possible but not always easy.

These problems are not easily solved but they are solvable. We’ll go into a few key ideas to help address them.

Gradual Change

Gradual change rather than cold turkey is often the most effective choice. We suggest changing one small thing at a time. Eat some fruits instead of sweets in the afternoon. Add some vegetables to your meals. Eat whole grains instead of refined grains a little at a time. You can overcome a lot of the hurdles mentioned above by making small changes. It will take a long time to overhaul your entire diet, so have patience. But trying to make wholesale changes all at once is a good recipe for failure for most people.

Emotional Eating

When you rely on food for reward, comfort, love, stress relief, what happens when you just stop eating comfort foods? What would happen if you only ate vegetables and beans, as a hypothetical example? You would all of a sudden not have a way to address those emotional needs. So you need to gradually change your coping habits to something healthier. For example, you could use meditation or walking for stress relief, and having a warm bath or hot tea for comfort or reward. This takes a good amount of time, so don’t expect to switch suddenly to a healthier diet. Focus first on the coping mechanism while gradually making healthier changes. Self compassion and learning to love yourself are two incredible habits that are important when it comes to changing emotional eating.

Changing Your Food Environment

One of the most important changes you can make if you want to stop overeating, or to eat healthier food, is changing your food environment. Your food environment is what kind of food you have all around you, how convenient it is, how tempting it is. For example, one person might have a kitchen pantry and fridge filled with tempting snacks and desserts, fried foods and unhealthy microwave meals. And he or she might go out to eat a lot, and have lots of unhealthy (and tempting) snacks at the office. However, another person might have only whole foods at home, with carrots and apples for snacks, and only go out to eat at healthy restaurants. One food environment will inevitably lead to unhealthy choices, the other probably will not.

Slowly clear your house of unhealthy, tempting foods as you try to change your habits. You might need to get your family on board. Or avoid the kitchen as much as possible and have the unhealthy food out of sight, if tossing the unhealthy food is not possible.

Try to get your workplace to either have healthy snacks out in plain sight or hide the unhealthy snacks so they’re not as tempting.

Eat out less if possible and try to go to healthier restaurants. Have your healthy options picked before you get there and ask your friends/spouse to hold you to that pre-determined choice. If you have a hard time changing your food environment, do it slowly and try to get others in your life to help you.

Dealing with Food Cravings

We often have food addictions or cravings, such as chocolate or sugar or bread. Cutting them out cold turkey can be very difficult and often we will struggle with food cravings and even collapse in the face of the cravings. The answer is not to go cold turkey but to slowly reduce the amount you eat. For example, wean yourself from sugar a little at a time and try to eat whole fruit (not juices) whenever you have sugar cravings. Chocolate cravings can be met with some 80-85% dark chocolate, weaning yourself down to just a square or two per day. Salty snack cravings can be met with fresh-popped popcorn with just a little salt, or raw nuts with just a little salt added (not roasted pre-salted nuts). Or carrots and hummus, perhaps. Find healthier alternatives to meet your cravings, and slowly wean yourself from them.

Mindful Eating

One of the unhealthy habits that leads to overeating is mindless eating. Most of us do this: we watch something or read or talk while we’re eating, so that we barely notice the food that is going down our throats. This leads to a lack of awareness of fullness levels, of what kind of food we’re eating, of the taste and textures of the food.
In order to change mindless habits, we need to use mindfulness. Put away the book, the phone, the computer, and turn off the TV and any other distractions. Just sit with the food and pay attention as you eat. Notice each bite, chew it slowly, pay attention to textures and smells and sights and tastes. It is a meditation — come back to paying attention when your mind wanders. Eat slowly, put the fork down between bites, take a breath and a sip of water between bites.

You will notice your food more and perhaps enjoy it more as well. You will notice your fullness levels more and are less likely to overeat. As you start to appreciate tastes and textures of healthier foods you are trying to switch to, you might even start to like them more. Mindful eating is not a complete solution in itself, but can be a part of a mindful movement to healthier eating. Most people want to form the exercise habit, but have a hard time making it stick. That is because it is engineered wrong, with feedback that makes you not want to do it:

First, It is harder than doing things online so you would rather put it off and do the easier, more comfortable tasks.

Second, It is often requires an initial change of clothes, shoes, venue, activity, and mindset — as opposed to switching from writing to email to checking social media sites, which do not require much change at all. So there is a big initial hurdle.

Third, Many people feel better when they are finished working out than when they are actually doing it, so you are happier when it’s over. (Note: Not everyone feels this way — but those who enjoy exercise are not usually struggling to form the habit.)

So how do we overcome this problem? We address each of those problems by 1) making it easier and more enjoyable, 2) creating social reward for doing the habit, 3) reducing the initial hurdle of doing it.

Start Small

Instead of saying that you need to work out for 30 minutes, try just 10. Or 5 minutes. And do not try to do anything too intense or difficult until you have the habit firmly established. By making the exercise habit short and easy, you are making it easier to switch from doing things online (for example) to the exercise. You are making it more comfortable instead of uncomfortable. And you are much more likely to think, “Sure, I can just bang out a quick 10-minute run” (or walk or set of pushups, etc.) instead of thinking, “Oh, I don’t have the time or energy for that right now, I’ll do it later.”

Just Get Started

Reduce the initial hurdle to get started by making it as easy as possible. Want to do strength exercises? Drop down near your desk and do some pushups or planks or squats or lunges. Want to run? Put your shoes near your bed, and when you wake up, just put on your shoes and step out the door. Don’t think about the entire exercise session (not even if it is only 10 minutes), but the first moment only. Make it as simple and easy to get going as you can, and then just do it.

Make It Social

If you exercise with a friend, it makes it more enjoyable — which means it is more rewarding and you are more likely to keep doing it. Go for a walk with a friend, get a gym or yoga partner, find a group to go running with. When you make it social, you are also much less likely to skip the workout, because you will have negative feedback for not doing the habit. When you do the workout with your friend, focus on enjoying the exercise and conversation. It will help you to keep coming back.

Be Mindful

Lots of people try to tune out their workouts, and if listening to music or podcasts helps get you out the door, then keep doing it if it works. However, I prefer to try to stay mindful of the movement of my body when I work out, as much as I can. That includes running, walking/ hiking, lifting weights, cycling, doing yoga, or any other kind of workout. Why? Because it is an opportunity for me to pay attention and enjoy the moment, which is not something I often do when I am working or online. In that way, the workout becomes one of my cherished moments of being present, of getting away from my distractions, of appreciating the beauty of my body exerting itself and of everything around me. Instead of tuning out my body’s movement, I pay attention to the movement and have learned to love it.

A lot of people submitted their habit struggles in different forms: wanting to be more disciplined, more motivated, less of a procrastinator. In my mind, these are all very related, so I decided to address them together briefly in this chapter. Let us briefly look at each of these and their relationship to each other:

First, Discipline. Most people think of discipline as meaning “If I plan to work out and then do my important work tasks before email or social media, then I should stick to that plan.” So basically, it’s the opposite of procrastinating. If you are procrastinating, you’re not disciplined. Let’s look at procrastination, then.

Second, Procrastination. We put things off because of resistance, as we talked about in Part I of this book. We went into why we have resistance, and different ideas to overcome it. If we can find ways to overcome resistance with work tasks (and habits), we will procrastinate less and be more disciplined.

Third, Motivation. This is what gets us over the resistance — if our motivation is greater than our resistance, we can stop procrastinating and be more disciplined.

As you can see, all three are essential the same problem stated in different ways: we face resistance, which causes us to procrastinate, but if we can find strong enough motivation, we can overcome it and develop better discipline. Let us briefly look at ideas for all three.


What is strong enough motivation to overcome the resistance that has been beating you all these years? Only you can answer that. You will have to experiment to see what works best. But here are some ideas:

First, Pain: If you have been struggling with various problems because of procrastination/discipline issues, then not wanting to hurt yourself in these ways can be a good motivator. Notice your pain and stress and tell yourself that you really want to stop making yourself struggle so much.

Second, Love for yourself: If you want to have a healthier, more productive, more peaceful, happier life, then perhaps you will find motivation in that to overcome your resistance.

Third, Love for others: If there is something you want to create that will help others, if your work will make the lives of other people better, if exercising might inspire your loved ones to become healthier … then this can be very strong motivation to push through resistance.

Fourth, Social motivation: If you tell others about the change you want to make, for example, you might be motivated to look good in their eyes, or not embarrass yourself. If you do the activity with others, that can motivate you to show up and do your best. Often being able to share your successes with others can be good motivation, and competitions or fun challenges can also help us push through resistance.

Fifth, Accountability: This is specific a form of social motivation — you say you are going to do something, you promise to report back regularly, and ask people to hold you to it. You might set consequences for yourself to make it even stronger.

These are some of the better motivators, in my experience, though you might be able to find others that work better for you, or some variations on the above. The key is to think about these motivations regularly, and keep them at the front of your mind as you make decisions about your day and as you face resistance.


The moment of doing a task or habit arrives, and you feel resistance to actually doing that … and without thinking about it, you put it off. You avoid the discomfort of the task or habit, and try not to even think about it. The solution is to be more mindful, and pause at the moment of resistance and urge to procrastinate. Do not just put it off, but face the resistance. This is a key habit to change, if you want to beat procrastination and be more disciplined. At this moment, you should think about your deeper motivation. What will move you to push through the resistance and do what you know you want to do? Do not skip this step — think deeply about it, and be moved by it. At the same time, you want to lower the resistance by making the habit or the task as small as possible. Just focus on getting started, and perhaps even tell yourself you just need to do a couple minutes of the task or habit. Take the smallest first step, and resistance isn’t too great. Finally, remove distractions and other options as much as you can, so you do not have anything that is easier than pushing through the resistance and doing this small, easy task.


If you want to be more disciplined, it is a habit that you can strengthen. You have to truly want it, and find a deeper motivation for it. Commit yourself to developing the habit of discipline. Then start small. Just pick one small thing to be disciplined about, and focus on that for at least a couple weeks, instead of trying to be disciplined with every single thing in your life at once. Like any muscle, the discipline muscle is best if you start easy and only gradually increase as your muscle gets stronger. Pick something easy. Perhaps just do a 5-sentence journal every morning. Or put your clothes in the hamper for a month. Do 10 pushups every morning. Not all of these, just one! As you work on this discipline muscle, follow the ideas above about motivation and beating procrastination, so you do not fall for those traps. Finally, discipline has been proven to be lower when you’re tired and stressed. So perhaps a good discipline area is getting more sleep, and then meditating or doing something else to lower your stress levels!

This is my favorite habit, and the one I think is most important — not only because it helps with all other habits, but because it can eventually lead to greater happiness and contentment in life. However, for many people, sticking to a regularly meditation habit can be a struggle. And others want to remember to be more mindful throughout the day, which can be a challenge as well. Let us talk briefly about each.

Daily Meditation Habit

What makes this habit difficult to stick with? First, most people do not actually enjoy the habit — it can be frustrating or boring, or fill you with uncertainty, if you feel like you are doing it wrong. Second, we were often in a rush to do the next thing we need to do (check email, take care of work tasks, respond to messages), and so sitting there doing nothing can make us feel anxious to get up and move on. These are actually really good things to learn to deal with, because they are the same mental habits we have in all other activities, but we just don’t often notice them. How can we deal with frustration, boredom, uncertainty, the need to rush and do the next task? By noticing the feelings but not automatically following the urges they result in. By returning to the moment and practicing with it.

Once we realize this, meditation can then be a place where we practice with accepting the moment and whatever arises. This is a practice that helps us in all areas of life, and when we realize this, then we can see meditation as a rewarding activity. Lower the discomfort level by starting really small — even just two minutes of meditation the first week. Then five minutes for a couple weeks after that. Then 7 or 8 minutes. Then 10. Do not be in a rush to increase, just be patient and keep doing it daily. Have a spot you meditate, and try to do it first thing in the morning, before you get caught in the rush of the day. Have a reminder that you will definitely see when you first awake. Report to others each day after you do the habit. Do not let yourself skip it, just get your butt on the cushion and get started. Smile as you do so.

Forgetting to Be Mindful

If you have a meditation habit but want to carry the practice to the rest of your day, then you need to remember to be mindful. Some tips:(1) Make at least one meal a mindful eating practice, (2) Have your exercise be a mindful practice as well, (3) Journal about being mindful all day, so you can review how you have done and look for ways to make improvements, (4) Put reminders all around you — on your phone’s lock screen, on your computer’s wallpaper, physical reminders on your desk or near your bed, (5) Use a computer reminder to remind you to be mindful of your surroundings every 20 or 25 minutes or so while you are online, (6) Have certain cues remind you to check in and practice mindfulness: entering a room, getting in your car, looking at someone’s face, putting on your clothes, getting in the shower, etc, and (7) Do all of these one at a time, practicing with that singular focus for at least a few days before adding another. Do not be in a rush to add more practices or cues.

A common goal is to want to wake earlier, to get more done, feel less rushed in the morning, and enjoy a lovely quiet time of the day. And lots of people want to get to sleep earlier, which is obviously a linked habit.
When I started this blog, I had formed the habit of waking early, and enjoyed that for years. These days I do not get up super early most days (between 6:30-7am lately) but I did learn a lot about forming this habit. Going to sleep earlier is something I have struggled with for years, as I often have insomnia, but I do have some thoughts on this as well. However, my general and most important tip is this: change your sleep habits gradually. Most people who want to wake at 6 am (for example) will just try to set their alarm for 6am and then struggle to get up. They also will struggle to get to sleep early enough. And that is because sleep patterns are hard to change. We have sleep rhythms that are not easily shifted. So change gradually — just go to bed 10 minutes earlier and wake 10 minutes earlier at first, then after a few days, adjust another 10 minutes, and so on. Eventually you will get to your new wake time, but you will give yourself time to adjust.

Waking Earlier

There are some tips:(1) Again, wake earlier just a little at a time, starting with just 10 minutes earlier. Do not rush this, (2) If you tend to hit the snooze button, put your alarm across the room. Use a regular alarm clock and your phone, in different places. Change your alarm tone regularly so you do not tune it out. Get loud or obnoxious tone if necessary, or use a wake-up service, (3) Have something you are excited to do when you wake up. For example, if you are excited about meditation, yoga, sketching, having tea, writing a novel … plan to do that first thing, (4) Jump out of bed with excitement when your alarm goes off! and (5) When you wake up, really focus on enjoying the beauty and quiet of the morning. It is lovely. Smile.

Getting to Sleep

We struggle to go to bed earlier, usually because we get stuck in online habits or watching TV or playing games — whatever we usually do late at night, it is hard to tear ourselves away. So the first habit is learning to pull away from your late night activity on time.

That is, there are some tips:

First, Set an alarm or alert for a certain time to get away from your late- night activity and start getting ready for bed. Make this a hard-and-fast bedtime routine start time.

Second, When the alarm goes off, don’t let yourself put it off. If you find yourself saying, “Just one more minute,” pause. This is the resistance we talked about in Part I of this book — face it with mindfulness instead of just running from it.

Third, If you need it, ask a friend for help remembering or for help with accountability to sticking to this start time.

Fourth, Make your bedtime routine something relaxing and/or appealing — perhaps you take a bath or shower, or meditate with relaxing music, or tidy up and brush your teeth and journal, or pick a few things you’re going to focus on in the morning and set things up so you’re ready to go. Time this routine so you can start it on time to get to bed when you want to be in bed.

Fifth, Do not have any electronics or TV on in your sleeping area. This should be your space to be electronics-free. Make this another hard-and-fast rule or you will not get to sleep until late.

Sixth, Again, make your bedtime only gradually earlier — do not try to immediately go to bed two hours earlier than normal. It takes time to adjust going to sleep earlier.

Seventh, If it helps to read yourself to sleep, go ahead and do that. If it helps to listen to (relaxing) music, do that. If listening to informative but not exciting history podcasts helps you to sleep, do that. Figure out what works for you, but if it keeps you awake, drop that method.

Eighth, What often works for me is some kind of meditation — breath meditation or thinking about the beginning of my day in step-by- step detail, trying to remember and visualize every single thing I did when I woke up that day, in order. I often fall asleep within a few minutes of starting this visualization.

For years, I had the idea that I would wake up early every morning and write … but for many years, I simply never did it regularly past the first day or two of inspiration. Then about 10 years ago, I formed the morning writing habit, and it has helped me to create my blog, courses and numerous books. I have also always wanted to journal regularly, but it is always happened in starts and spurts, but I have not been able to keep it going … until recently. Now I journal first thing in the morning, right after meditating. It is a great habit of reflection that helps me stick to all other habits and deepens my learning. I do not recommend forming both these habits at once. Try one, get it going, and only once that is pretty solid should you try the other habit (though there is no need to do both). Let is look at some ideas for each.

Writing Daily

For me, writing is the most important work I do all day, so I prioritize it. I used to do it first thing every morning, but now that it is pretty solid, I put meditation, journaling, and setting my daily priorities before writing. I never skip the writing these days, unless I’m traveling.
Some ideas on getting it going:

First, Have a really important motivation to get up and do it in the morning. Are you doing it to make the lives of others better in some way? To help yourself in a powerful way? Be clear on that reason, keep a note about it somewhere you will not forget it, and let it move you to action.

Second, If it is important to you, start the day with it. Perhaps get up, pee, drink some water, start the coffeemaker … then get started writing. Do not let yourself insert anything in between, like checking email, news or social media.

Third, Clear all distractions, turn off your network connection, shut off your phone, turn off all programs except your writing program. I recommend doing this the night before, so you are ready to start writing as soon as you turn on your computer.

Fourth, Some people really like writing longhand, with pen and paper. If you can do this, I recommend it, but I have been typing as a writer for 25 years, and am probably not ever going to change (even when writing input is done just by thinking).

Fifth, Have a writing spot, maybe a writing playlist to block out all distractions, maybe tea or coffee to make the experience more pleasant.

Sixth, Start small, with just 5 minutes of writing. Do it in bursts, getting up to stretch, breathe, have a glass of water. Pat yourself on the back. Then try another burst. You can just start with one 5-minute burst for the first week, then two the second. Eventually lengthen your bursts to 10 minutes, 12, then 15.

Seventh, When resistance comes up (and it will), do not run from it. Face it. Allow yourself to do nothing but sit there, or write.


Journaling can be done in many ways, but I simply like to dump whatever is on my mind into the journal. And I reflect on what I did yesterday, what I have been learning, some things I want to do in the near or far future. Sometimes I think about life aspirations. But there are lots of options.

There are some ideas for forming the habit:(1) Try a 5-sentence journal. It is quick and easy, and it gets you into the habit, (2) I also love a gratitude journal — what are you grateful for right now? I find it a great way to appreciate what I have in my life, rather than focusing on what I do not have, (3) Do the habit as early in the day as you can, if you want to form the habit and be consistent about it. However, if you have no doubts about whether you will actually do it, an end-of-day reflective journal is often very helpful, (4) I use the journaling app DayOne, though it’s just for the Mac. You can add photos, have it backed up online, use it on multiple devices, and it’s pretty simple to use, and (5) If you are not consistent about it, ask a friend for some help sticking to it. I use my Habit Zen habit app to check off when I meditated and journaled, and I find it rewarding to check off each day after I’ve done it.

I am going to admit that I am not a financial wizard, but I did spend a few years getting out of a lot of debt, and I did save a good amount of money and then learned to invest it automatically. I did all of that by forming some small financial habits that I definitely did not have before. I am not going to be able to do personal finances any justice in this short chapter, but I will briefly share some thoughts on developing good financial habits:

First, My worst financial habit in the past was not facing them. I knew my finances were a mess, so I would avoid thinking about debts and bills and budgeting. I shoved past-due bill notices in a drawer, racked up debt without knowing how much, and generally put off dealing with the whole mess as long as I could, until it came crashing down. So your first financial habit is learning to face them, even if they’re scary. You can do that by just doing a little at a time.

Second, A good start is just listing your debts and bills. Make a list of them all, taking 5-10 minutes a day until your list is done. Then spend those 5-10 minutes each day listing their due dates, monthly payment amounts and overall debt. This might require finding paper bills or looking online for this info. Start creating a “financial health sheet.”

Third, Another good way to spend your daily financial time is to start adding up your monthly expenses — how much do you spend on groceries, eating out, entertainment and books, shopping and clothes, household bills, transportation, housing, education, etc? You can have a program like try and add everything up for you, or put it in a spreadsheet.

Fourth, Then start looking at how much you spend each month vs. how much you are earning. Are you outspending your earnings, and by how much? Are you making more than you spend, and what are you doing with the difference?

Fifth, If you have savings and investment, congratulations! Put those numbers on your financial health sheet too. Try automating savings, and then investments.

Sixth, If you’re in debt, try creating a plan for paying this off. See how much you can scrounge each month by cutting expenses — this will be your debt repayment amount. Cut cut cut until this amount is as high as you can get it. Now plan which debt to pay off first — either the one with the highest interest (recommended) or the one with the smallest overall debt total (so you can have the satisfaction of paying it off). Which debt will be paid off after that? You can actually plan how many months it will take to pay off each debt if you know your “debt repayment” amount (or “debt snowball” amount in Dave Ramsey terms).

Seventh, When one debt is paid off, take the amount you were paying and pay it to the next debt. And so on — it should get bigger and bigger as more of your debts are paid off. Again, see Dave Ramsey for more on the debt snowball method.

Eighth, Housing and transportation are the biggest expenses for most people — focusing on lowering these amounts can make more difference than focusing on, say, groceries or entertainment. Find a smaller place, use a cheaper car (or use a bike if you can), and you can pay off debts faster and then save and invest faster.

Ninth, Once you have done all this, you do not need to spend time every day on finances. I like to spend a little time every week making sure all the bills are paid and my accounts are up-to-date (again, I used to automatically update all this info), then a little time each month looking at my overall financial picture and making adjustments as needed.

Tenth, Automate as much as you can. If you have a debt repayment plan, automate the debt payments. Automate bill payments. Automate savings and investments. The more you can automate, the less you think about it, and the better it all works.

Eleventh, You should immediately try to spend less than you earn, cutting expenses until that is true. The bigger the difference, the better. Use the difference to pay debt, save an emergency fund, and then invest. Try to save/invest 10% of your income, increasing it to 20% if possible. My friend J.D. Roth (of recommends a 50% savings rate! He says to cut down housing and transportation expenses, and increase income however you can.

Twelfth, Investing is simple: get a Vanguard account and invest in low-fee index funds (like the Vanguard 500 that indexes the S&P 500). Most fund managers do not beat the rate of these index funds after you take away their fees, and non-professional investors like us certainly are not going to beat their rates.

In the end, it just takes finding the courage to take small steps regularly to get a clear picture of your finances, to start moving in the right direction, and to automate things so that you get in better and better shape.

That is, I thought I would share a few brief thoughts on habits that people want to form in following cases:

First, Arriving on time: If you are constantly late, the real habit is to leave on time. Which means getting ready to leave on time. Which means pulling yourself away from your computer or TV at the right time to start getting ready. See the chapter on getting to sleep for tips on this, as it is essentially the same habit as starting to get ready for bed on time. It is good to figure out how long it takes you to get places, rather than underestimating travel time, and also figure out how long it takes you to get ready — so time both of these for awhile until you know. Put in extra time for traffic and other unexpected delays — it is better to show up early and read while you wait.

Second, Morning routine: I suggest starting with as small a morning routine as possible, getting that solidified, and then only slowly adding one habit a month. But don’t add too many. For example, if you start waking a little earlier, meditate and journal. As you get up a little earlier than that, you might add reading or writing (but not both at once). Stop after 4-5 habits because otherwise it becomes a house of cards ready to come tumbling down.

Third, Focusing: The key to focus is clearing distractions, and not letting yourself switch tasks. Pick an important task to work on, and tell yourself, “For the next X minutes, I am going to do nothing but this task.” Pull yourself away from everything else, and clear everything but the one tool you need to do this task. Shut off the Internet. Notice when you want to put off the task or switch to something else, and instead just sit there and face the resistance with mindfulness.

Fourth, Calendar & to-do lists: For me, there are two key calendar habits — remembering to put items on the calendar when I make an appointment or hear about something I want to remember on specific date, and checking my calendar every morning. For my to-do list, it’s basically the same two habits except I put items that aren’t on a specific day/time — I have to remember to put items on the list, and remember to check the list in the morning. My habit is to look at my calendar and to-do list in the morning, after journaling, and set my agenda and priorities. Remembering to put things on the list and calendar takes more time, but you can do it if you give the habit focus for a couple weeks (have a note reminding you at your desk). I use a “Today” list, a “Later” list for things I am going to do soon but not today, and a “Someday” list for ideas for future projects.

Fifth, Doing less, taking on fewer projects: If you are overwhelmed, the key is to learn to say No. When you have the choice to take on a project, it is helpful to look at your list of projects and decide what needs to take priority. Start trying to get a better idea of how long projects take, how long meetings or calls take, how long a trip takes of your time (trip planning ,communication, and decompressing, for example), and so on. This way you know what you are saying Yes to, if given the option, instead of underestimating the commitment. In general, it is better to have fewer commitments than too many, in my experience.

Sixth, Decluttering: This can be a small daily habit where you spend just 10 minutes decluttering one area. Pick a spot (say your kitchen counter) and clear away as many items as you can for donation, recycling, or giving to friends. Put them in a box and take action later, making a weekly trip to donation/recycling. After a few days, you’ll probably have decluttered one area, move on to the next, then the next. Soon you will be living in a minimalist Zen temple!

Seventh, Taking time to decompress: Sometimes we just rush through our entire days, and have no time for relaxing. Eva and I have developed a habit of having a glass of wine and watching our favorite TV show after dinner. I work hard, spend time with the kids, workout, work some more, until dinner comes, then it is decompress and get offline after that. Other ideas for decompress time include having tea, taking a bath, going for a walk, spending some quiet time reading, doing yoga, meditating, taking a short nap in the afternoon. I think it is important to find a time for it and say, “No online stuff at this time.”

Eighth, Prioritizing health & self care: This isn’t really a habit, but the way you can prioritize it is to first say that this is really important to you and needs to become a priority. And then to pick one health or self-care habit to start with, and give it your full effort. Just one health/self-care habit at a time, and start small with it. Good places to start are meditation, gradually eating healthier, doing a little exercise, brushing your teeth and flossing.

Ninth, Brushing teeth & flossing: Have a time when you brush your teeth and floss in the morning, and then put in your full effort to do it every day until it becomes automatic. Have reminders, both digital and physical. And enjoy those activities mindfully and with gratitude, rather than rushing to get to the next thing. Make flossing as easy as you can, even just starting with flossing one tooth.

Tenth, Daily yoga: Honestly, I have never formed this habit, though it is something I would like to do. But I think it’s a habit like meditation or exercise, where you just need to set aside time early in your day (or at the end), commit to it, have reminders and accountability, and face the resistance with mindfulness when it gets in your way.

Eleventh, Dealing with difficult emotions: The best way to learn to deal with difficult emotions — which is not easy — is to form the habit of meditation. In meditation, we eventually learn not to attach too much to the thought patterns that come up, including the ones that cause difficult emotions. We learn to notice when the emotion is coming up, and with practice, we can learn to face the physical feeling that is in our bodies and stay with it, just facing it with friendliness. This is an important practice, and I highly recommend it.

Twelfth, Developing confidence: We develop confidence when we deal with our insecurities about ourselves, when we develop trust that we are good enough and that we will be OK. Again, I think meditation is the best way to deal with this. If you meditate, start to notice your basic goodness that underlies all your thoughts, emotions, and experiences. And see that you are OK, in every moment.

Thirteenth, Reducing the phone habit: Put a reminder on your phone’s lock screen: “Be in the moment.” Pause when you see this reminder before doing anything on your phone. See your urge to check things on the phone with mindfulness. Stay with the urge but don’t act on it. Put the phone down and spend a few seconds just noticing this moment around you. Smile. Repeat as often as you need, only using the phone when you need to actually do something important.

Lastly, Stop drinking diet soda or alcohol, quitting smoking, and reducing shopping. This article is from Leo Babauta, The Habit Guide, Zen Habits’ Effective Habit, Methods and Solutions, under uncopyrighted allowance.